My mother texted: “We can’t come to your son’s birthday. It’s a busy month.” I replied: “No problem.” The next evening, I saw photos. Bounce House had laid out mountains of gifts for my sister’s children. My son whispered: “They always have money for it.” I said nothing. I just cancelled it. At 8:47 a.m., my father knocked so hard on the windows that they shook.

Last night I was in the supermarket. I was standing in the breakfast cereal aisle. I looked at the box of the store brand and then at the box of the brand with the marshmallows.

I reached for the brand-name product. Not because I wanted to prove anything, and not because I felt guilty.

I bought it because I could afford it. Because the weight was off.

As I walked to the checkout, Mason ran up to me and showed me a pack of stickers he had found.

Can we have this one, Mom?

‘Sure, friend,’ I said.

He grinned, and as we walked to the checkouts, he looked at me. “Grandpa is actually really funny when he’s not shouting, isn’t he?”

I smiled back and felt the sun on my face through the shop windows. “Yes, Mason. That really is him.”

And sometimes, in a world built on debt and lies, that is ultimately enough.